A breakup of partners is an extremely stressful situation that demands of the organism to surrender to the limit of the possibilities. We put all our efforts and all our vital energy in solving a problem that is in our hands only in part, which causes alterations in the physiological and mental functioning of who suffers it. We do not realize that this situation of stress makes difficult the possibilities of reconciliation or a recovery, mainly because we lose our attractiveness, our magnetism; Something basic if what we are trying is reconciliation. Here are a few tips to avoid stress. Luck.
1. Uncertainty. We want to control what is happening, but we do not get it. The first symptom after the rupture is to deny reality and try to control the uncontrollable. Your partner has closed the door, and as an unwanted seller, the more times you ring the bell, the less chance you have of being opened. But nothing happens. Anything that may happen in the future could happen equally if you were still your partner, so do not think negative. Be practical and do not build irrational thoughts.
2. Lack of information. Someone whom I tried some time ago explained that in the worst days of the break (a hot summer in Barcelona, as I related), he looked at the clock and it was six-twenty in the afternoon. After a long time, he said, he would look at his watch again, and it was still six-twenty; And after a long time, it was still six-twenty. No, not that his watch was standing, what had stopped him was life itself. And is that the lack of information about what is thinking or doing your partner causes a degree of stress and considerable anxiety. Think that you can not control what your partner is doing and think about it is just a terrible waste of time.
3. Be at home. To close at home and not to chat more than with oneself, is one of the worst things that we can do in a situation of abandonment of the couple. Thoughts devour us and tell us nonsense things that we, in that state, are not able to see. Get out. We have to leave. You do not have to have someone to do it with if you are accompanied by a friend or a partner or your cousin, or your mother or whoever. Perhaps the time has come to enroll in the fishing club (or any other) in your town or to contact a group of people through the Internet. Think that you will not solve anything at home and that is when you have to start your social skills.
3. Imperfect future. Anxiety increases when we project a future that is never realized. We imagine that for our birthday we are going to call or that we will remember the anniversary ... but nothing happens of this and irretrievably the frustration occurs. Do not expect anything from your experience. I know it's difficult but not impossible. It is a matter of releasing ourselves rationally from that which is not going to produce us any good.
4. Rest. A breakup of a partner causes, like any other situation of stress, an imbalance in the organism by the physiological and cognitive increase. The body understands that we are in constant danger and there is a redistribution of energies and a continuous state of alert. The consequence is that we are unable to fall asleep. That is why now your best ally will be physical fatigue. Do sport. Running, biking, walking ... whatever it is that you wear yourself out physically and you get home absolutely exhausted or exhausted. You will sleep better, and you can evaluate the situation much better if you desire to recover your partner.
6. Damn WhatsApp. We all know that social networks are transforming our way of seeing the world. The WhatsApp application especially transforms our lives because with the mobile we receive some indirect information from others that we interpret freely. If we see that our ex-partner is continuously online, we think that she has met someone and is talking to him or her. If we send a message to the non-respondent (even after receiving the confirmation), we think that he does not want to answer. If we see that his last connection was at three in the morning, we wonder who the hell he'll talk to at that time. It is possible that all of the above is true, but it is also possible that it is not true; To wake up at that time and watch a conversation or be online because you are chatting with a partner or a friend. Do not look at his state or believe he knows what he is doing because it is very likely that you are building a castle with a single grain of sand.